GIVE IT A NAME! JUST LIKE THAT… I REPEAT “GIVE IT A NAME” Name your fault, bad habit, addiction, unhealthy routine, and fear. These have been holding you hostage to your negative thoughts and self-doubt. Today, I decided to take this on. I just checked in with myself. This is what I was told to do and share. I give a name to a wound buried so deep within me. I unconsciously and repeatedly relive this wound. I reopen it within my relationships with men, women, family, children, and friends. Now, I have a few names for these wounds. The first one I want to speak on is something called ‘control’. Now, before I speak on this word, I want to make something clear. I am in no way “bashing” or “blaming” anyone for my emotions. I speak from an authentic and loving space. I am here to simply share a moment of clarity.

When I think about my behavior during my younger years, I realize that I was quite controlling. LOL. I now innerstand that at that time I equated control with respect and respect with being seen, validated and loved. I remember how good it felt. People would say, “Oh, Mya, she doesn’t play at all. She is mean.” I believed that fear=respect=love. See, my father was a military man, and we all know what comes with that… discipline and control and yup you guessed it. we were raised with those two things being at the forefront. We joked all the time. My sister and I would say that my dad was harder on his girls than his boys. We always meant it in fun (lol). Anyway, I developed this trait and yes, I became a hardass with everyone around including myself smh. Now, that I am older, I am learning that fear and love can’t co-exist in the same space. I had to surrender it. That control became a crutch. I was capable of blaming my reckless behavior and actions on my being “in control.” I was really suffering and too scared to speak on it or deal with it. But today, I say no more. I choose to do something different. I will switch out one bad habit or thought one day at a time. Join me in this fight for or freedom. Each day we stand to name it. We speak about it either with ourselves or our community. As we do, we step more into our power…So, Name it and take back what’s yours from that ugly and dark space…make it shine again…until next time